A member of the LGBT community, writing under the name Alan, has sought advice from SunStar columnist Noy Kulas about his troubled relationship and fears of HIV infection. Alan, who has been living with his gay partner for two years, recently encountered his ex-boyfriend, who is now married to a woman and has a child.
Ex-boyfriend's New Life
Alan was shocked to see his ex with a wife and child. His ex, who still appears masculine, explained that his wife knows he is gay but that he decided to leave his previous life and become a "real man." He claimed to be happy and complete now that he has a child, no longer attracted to men, and content with his wife.
Alan's Current Struggles
Alan, however, is exhausted from constant fights with his unfaithful partner, whom he has caught with multiple partners multiple times. He is also worried about the rising HIV cases, particularly among male-to-male partners. Alan asked whether he should break up with his partner and get married.
Columnist's Advice
Noy Kulas responded that Alan's fear of contracting HIV due to his partner's multiple partners is valid, as male-to-male transmission is a major driver of HIV cases. He advised Alan to prioritize his health by leaving his partner if he is tired of the situation. However, Kulas cautioned that marriage is not a guarantee of happiness, noting that many married couples eventually separate. He suggested Alan try living alone to reflect on what he truly wants, whether that be marriage or continuing his current lifestyle.
