A 38-year-old woman identified as Yenyen shared her marital struggles with advice columnist Papa Joe, revealing deep insecurity about her husband despite her constant efforts to please him. She describes him as the epitome of tall, dark, and handsome—a basketball enthusiast with many fans—and proudly posts about him on social media, portraying them as an ideal couple. However, the reality is starkly different.
One-Sided Efforts in Marriage
Yenyen explains that her husband is always busy with his friends after work, claiming that basketball is his life. He rarely posts about her on social media, while she goes out of her way to earn extra income to buy him luxury items like shoes and data for his motorcycle. She does this out of fear that he will grow tired of her. Despite her friends telling her she is lucky to have him, Yenyen feels that he is actually the lucky one.
Papa Joe's Advice on True Love
Papa Joe responded by acknowledging her pride in her husband but reminded her that true love should not be bought with shoes, data, or constant giving. He emphasized that love does not require payment to last. He pointed out the pain in her situation: she is always the one posting about him, while he barely reciprocates the effort. While social media posts are not a measure of love, it is crucial to feel chosen, treated well, and valued in real life.
Papa Joe warned against letting insecurity drive the marriage, noting that if she keeps finding ways to prevent him from getting bored, she might end up exhausting herself while neglecting her own worth. He also advised against comparing their marriage to what is seen on Facebook, as many ideal-looking couples have different realities behind the screen. What matters is not how others see them, but how they feel inside their home.
