A Forbidden Affair
Dear Noy Kulas,
Good day. Let me use the name Eli. My love life problem is not ordinary. My mother died 15 years ago, and my father was a widower for a long time until he met my stepmother, who is five years younger than him. We are three siblings, and I am the only one left at home since my siblings got married and moved out. I am single by choice because I do not like commitment. My relationship with my stepmother, who is 22 years older than me, was good. She took care of me because she said I am the same age as her eldest child. Even though she is older, she takes good care of her body and looks young. Sometimes, it is just the two of us at home when my father visits his siblings in the province.
One night, my stepmother and I were watching a movie at home when we were alone. Suddenly, she approached me, leaned on me, and kissed me. I did not know what to do because I have never been in a long-term relationship. She taught me what to do. That was the start, and it happened many times. We were not worried because at her age, she can no longer get pregnant. My father is also old, so he cannot notice us. As time passed, I developed different feelings for her; I missed her, and she felt the same. I know what we are doing is wrong, but it is hard to resist. What should I do? Please advise me.
Eli
Noy Kulas' Advice
Eli, if you do not leave your home, it will be hard to avoid each other because you already have feelings and you are always close. Even if you move out but stay nearby, the temptation will still be there. It is best to move far away, if possible, to avoid each other. Do this out of respect for your father, because they are the ones in a relationship. It looks bad if you betray your father. Even if your stepmother initiated it, it is still not right. Whether their relationship is good or bad, you have no right to intrude even if they are not legally married. It is best to leave your home as soon as possible.
Noy Kulas
