A 35-year-old man from Cebu, writing under the alias Teddy, has sought guidance from the popular advice column "Tambagi ko Noy Kulas" after a shocking discovery about his girlfriend's past. The revelation has thrown their two-year relationship into crisis, leaving him questioning his next move.
A Budding Romance in Cebu
The story began when Teddy, a single man, met a woman he calls Sheryl, 32, through a mutual friend. Sheryl had moved to Cebu from Mindanao for work. Their connection grew, and she became his girlfriend. Teddy describes Sheryl as kind, beautiful, fair-skinned, tall, and slim. He saw no indication of a troubled past.
However, their relationship faced an intimate hurdle. Sheryl consistently refused to engage in sexual activity that could lead to pregnancy, even though Teddy assured her he would marry her. Her reason was a desire to avoid "bad consequences," as she was the sole breadwinner for her family. Teddy respected her decision and did not force the issue.
The Shocking Revelation from a Cousin
The situation took a dramatic turn when Teddy accidentally met Sheryl's female cousin. It was from this relative that he learned the truth Sheryl had kept hidden: she is a single mother. Confronted with this information, Sheryl broke down in tears and confessed it was true. She apologized profusely, but a hurt and angry Teddy stopped listening.
For two weeks, there has been no communication between them. Teddy has ignored all her calls and text messages. Now, torn between his love for her and his anger over the deception, he asks columnist Noy Kulas if he was right to react this way and if he should simply break up with her.
Noy Kulas's Advice: Listen Before Judging
In his response published on January 9, 2026, Noy Kulas provides nuanced counsel. He begins by explaining why many people, especially single mothers, hide their past. They often fear being judged as having "lower value" or being exploited by men who see them as easy targets. He strongly condemns this perception, stating that a woman's worth is unchanged by motherhood.
Noy Kulas acknowledges that Teddy's anger is valid, as being lied to is painful. However, he urges Teddy to listen to Sheryl's explanation. Her fear of being looked down upon or her past experience of being left after a pregnancy could be her reasons for secrecy. Her reluctance to get physically intimate might stem from a traumatic past promise made by another man.
The columnist's final advice is clear: "If you love her, listen to her explanation. Then weigh whether you will continue or not your relationship." He emphasizes that understanding her fears is crucial before making a final decision about their future together.
