A 36-year-old woman using the pseudonym "Pia" has reached out to the popular advice column "Tambagi ko Noy Kulas" with a heartfelt romantic dilemma. Published on December 19, 2025, her letter details a difficult choice between two men, each with significant pros and cons.
The Contenders: A Responsible Single Dad vs. A Returning Ex
Pia is currently in a two-year relationship with a man she calls Edwin, who is 37 years old. Despite facing many trials, she describes him as loyal, affectionate, and very responsible towards his children. The complication is that Edwin is a single father with two children from different women. One child is from a live-in partner who tragically died in an accident. Pia's parents disapprove of the relationship primarily because of his status as a single dad.
Her dilemma is compounded by the sudden return of an ex-boyfriend, referred to as Lloyd, 36 years old. Lloyd disappeared without explanation, only for Pia to later discover he had gone to work abroad. Now back, he wants to marry her. He confessed that after their breakup, he had two other girlfriends but claims he was always looking for Pia, which is why he returned.
A History of Betrayal and Parental Approval
However, Lloyd's past reveals a pattern of dishonesty. During their previous five-year relationship, Pia caught him cheating three times, which was a constant source of their arguments. Ironically, unlike with Edwin, Pia's parents approve of Lloyd.
This leaves Pia torn between a man with a complicated family situation but proven good character, and a man with her parents' blessing but a history of infidelity.
Noy Kulas's Advice: Character Over Convenience
The columnist, Noy Kulas, offered clear and direct guidance. He advised Pia to look beyond marital status and focus on the person's character. He highlighted that she herself had no problem with Edwin and her description confirmed his good qualities.
The main drawback Noy Kulas noted was financial: if Edwin is not financially stable, Pia might end up helping support his two children. However, if he is financially capable and does not rely on her, that would be the best scenario.
Regarding Lloyd, Noy Klas was skeptical. He pointed out that Lloyd did not cheat just once, but multiple times. He also questioned Lloyd's excuse of working abroad, noting that in the age of the internet, his failure to contact her was suspicious and weak. His advice was firm: "Ayaw buhii ang imong single dad" (Don't let go of your single dad).
The final recommendation was to assess the financial aspect with Edwin. If they are both financially okay, Pia should absolutely not reconnect with her ex-boyfriend. The advice prioritizes responsibility, loyalty, and proven character over parental pressure and the empty promises of a past love.
