Dear Noy Kulas,
I go by the name Sendo, a 42-year-old married OFW. My wife suffered a stroke last year. We brought her younger sister, who was studying in Mindanao, to live with us so she could take care of my wife while I was still abroad. My wife's condition is not severe, and her sister took good care of her—she is truly kind-hearted.
When I returned home, I noticed that her sister was shy. I didn't know her well because during our vacations, she would visit her father's side. I felt sorry for her because her schooling was delayed due to not being able to enroll in all subjects.
One time, I came home late at night after drinking with friends, and she opened the door. I was drunk, and in that state, I hugged and kissed her. I don't know why, but something happened between us. That was the start of our secret relationship, even after I returned abroad. I am confused because my feelings for my wife have shifted to her. No one knows, not even my close friends.
Noy Kulas, what should I do? My feelings for her are different—very intense. Sometimes we chat until dawn because we miss each other so much. By the way, my wife and I have no children.
Noy Kulas' Advice
Sendo, no matter what excuses or explanations you give, what you are doing is wrong. You are taking advantage of your sister-in-law's vulnerable situation. You are also abusing the kindness of your wife, who is ill. Even if you say your feelings are serious, that doesn't erase the fact that you are married to her older sister.
Stop your foolishness with your sister-in-law because it will only bring harm to you, your family, and your wife's family. It will surely lead to chaos if you continue this relationship with your sister-in-law. You are not only ruining her future but also her family's, as her sister will surely be angry and resentful if they find out. It will be difficult for you to suddenly end the relationship.
