A Filipino man in his 30s, who goes by the name Carlo, has shared a heartfelt dilemma that resonates with many in the Philippines. He works in the BPO industry and has built a solid, if unspectacular, career. For him, serving and growing within the country has always been a quiet form of patriotism. However, he is now wrestling with a significant question: is his love for the Philippines enough reason to stay?
The Push and Pull Factors
Carlo observes that his friends who have moved to nations like the US, Australia, New Zealand, and Canada have experienced steady and positive changes in their lives. This contrasts with the situation at home, where he faces a constant cycle of political drama, familiar stories of corruption, and recurring natural disasters. A quiet fear has begun to gnaw at him—the fear that if he does not make a move now, he may look back years later with regret, questioning why he chose to stay. His central question is profound: How do you know when staying is an act of bravery and when leaving is the wise choice?
Patriotism and the Freedom of Choice
In a response framed by the spirit of Bonifacio Day, a voice of reason, referred to as DJ, offers a powerful perspective. DJ, who is also patriotic and has chosen to remain in the Philippines, reframes the concept of patriotism. He suggests that the revolutionary hero Andres Bonifacio fought for freedom—the freedom to make choices and shape one's own life. This includes both the freedom to stay and the freedom to go.
DJ asserts that both staying and leaving can be acts of bravery and wisdom. What truly matters is the intention behind the decision. Carlo's love for the country is evident in his work and his consistency, but patriotism should not be the only compass for his future. DJ draws a parallel to historical and fictional figures like Rizal, Luna, and even Darna, who all had to carefully choose their battles.
Making the Right Decision for Your Future
The key, according to DJ, is self-reflection. Carlo must ask himself if he is genuinely growing in the Philippines or merely staying out of a sense of loyalty. Becoming a better Filipino is also about becoming a fuller, more capable version of oneself—someone who can provide for their family and contribute meaningfully, regardless of location. Examples like Alex Eala and Hidilyn Diaz show that success and national pride can be achieved on different paths.
It is crucial to examine the motivation behind the desire to leave. Is it driven by fear or by hope? There is a world of difference between running away from a situation and running towards a promising future. One is guided by panic, the other by purpose. This distinction determines whether one will feel regret or peace with their decision.
Finally, one must consider the long-term consequences for family, career, and personal life. Staying might mean physical presence for loved ones but could mean missed financial opportunities. Leaving might offer stability but create emotional distance. By honestly weighing these factors, one can align their choice with both their dreams and their responsibilities.
Ultimately, Bonifacio fought for possibility. Whether one enjoys Chickenjoy in Los Angeles or in Colon, Cebu, neither choice is unpatriotic. The only unwise choice is one made from guilt or pressure instead of clarity. Carlo's love for the Philippines is not in question; the challenge is to ensure he also loves the life he is building for himself.
