SunStar Tambagi ko Noy Kulas
Published on: Jun 12, 2026, 10:54 am
Dear Noy Kulas,
Let me hide my name as Carlo. I have a very close friend whom we will call John. In our closeness, we have no secrets from each other.
Now in college, we attend different universities but still meet regularly. Then we were introduced to a girl, let's call her Mich. She is beautiful, very intelligent, and witty. She has a great sense of humor. I was very impressed by her.
I didn't know that John, like me, also likes Mich, but he doesn't know that we share the same feeling. I secretly communicate with Mich while he is open with me. I didn't tell him because he might get upset. Mich is also open with me about John, but I asked her not to be obvious that we are seeing each other. Mich told me that John courted her but she didn't accept. I asked why. She said maybe we have the same feeling for John towards her, and she doesn't want to ruin our friendship with John.
I asked her between John and me, who is heavier for her. She said it's me, but she is afraid that we might fight with my best friend. So she won't accept either of us.
Noy Kulas, what should I do? Isn't it useless to see each other but have no relationship? Would it be good if I tell John that we are seeing each other? Please advise me on what to do.
Carlo
Carl,
We have a different culture because we are very sensitive, especially when it comes to relationships involving a woman. Many friendships have been destroyed because of rivalry over a woman's love. Just leave it at that even if Mich said she likes you more than John. Liking and loving are different. Let time pass before you ask Mich again.
Slowly distance yourself from Mich. You may tell John about your feelings for Mich. But tell him that your friendship is more important to you than your feelings for Mich. Your friend will appreciate what you do. Anyway, if you and Mich are meant to be, you will be together. I always believe in destiny.
Noy Kulas
