Dear Papa Joe: Married OFW in Kuwait Confesses Feelings for Another Man
A Filipina domestic helper working in Kuwait has reached out to the popular advice columnist Papa Joe, using the pseudonym "Miss Lang," to confess a personal dilemma that weighs heavily on her heart. In a heartfelt letter published on January 20, 2026, she reveals being caught in a complex emotional situation involving her marriage and newfound feelings for another man.
The Confession of a Married OFW
Miss Lang begins her letter by explaining she is a married woman currently employed as a domestic helper in Kuwait. She acknowledges knowing her actions are wrong but feels lost about what to do. The core of her problem stems from developing romantic feelings for a man who previously had a live-in partner.
She believes this man reciprocates her feelings, citing that he wouldn't engage in conversation with her if he didn't care. Their connection dates back to 2021, but it reignited recently when she sent him a friend request from abroad, which he accepted. They began chatting, and he admitted to having feelings for her, which she confessed to sharing.
Marital Struggles and Emotional Neglect
The situation is complicated by issues in her own marriage. Miss Lang describes feeling neglected by her husband, stating that she is always the one making an effort to communicate. When she sends him messages, he often ignores them, not even bothering to read them, which has left her feeling isolated and unhappy.
This emotional void has contributed to her developing feelings for the other man. She ends her plea by asking Papa Joe for advice on what she should do in this difficult circumstance.
Papa Joe's Wise Counsel
In his response, Papa Joe addresses Miss Lang with a greeting of "Maayong adlaw" (Good day) and offers thoughtful guidance. He emphasizes a key principle: "Di masulbad ang problema ug laing problema" (You can't solve a problem with another problem).
He advises against rushing to judge her husband without hearing his side of the story. More importantly, Papa Joe urges her to reconsider before diving deeper into this new romantic situation. He highlights the potential consequences, asking her to reflect on how it would affect others:
- How would she feel if she were in the position of the man's live-in partner?
- What impact would it have on the children involved if families were broken?
- Would her own children or husband be happy if her family were disrupted?
- Would this align with her spiritual beliefs?
Papa Joe recommends stopping the situation early, noting that online chats can be misleading and may not reflect real-life compatibility. He encourages her to focus on her original purpose abroad: securing a better future for her children. If love has truly faded in her marriage and there's no way to continue, he suggests choosing a path that avoids causing harm to others.
The column concludes by reminding readers to send their concerns to Papa Joe at the provided email address for advice.
