Dear Noy Kulas,
Good day. I will just use the name Alan, 42 years old. I have a situation that sounds like a movie but is real in my life. My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, and we have gone through many hardships and joys. We were even planning our future together.
But one day, she had an accident and hit her head. After surgery, she woke up but lost a part of her memory. She recognized her family, friends, and coworkers, but she did not recognize me at all. What hurts more is that she has now become close again with her first love, whom she still remembers here in Mindanao. Meanwhile, I watch her every day being happy with another person, even though I was the one who took care of her in the hospital.
Her family told me to just let her be and that her memory might return. But I am tired of waiting for someone who no longer remembers why she loved me. My question is: should I continue waiting for our relationship to be restored, or should I accept that even though she is alive, the woman I loved is gone? What advice can you give me, Noy Kulas?
ALAN
Alan,
If you truly love her, wait because her memory might indeed recover. True love is willing to wait even until the end of time. That is real love. It is painful to think that you watch the two of them, her and her ex who should be her past, while you are supposed to be her present. But she did not intend this. It is because of her accident, and now fate is playing with you.
While waiting, also seek help from her family to gradually remind her of you. Perhaps your social media posts, your saved pictures might help. Ask the doctor if there is a chance she will recover or not. Whether showing your photos can help remind her.
If there is really no hope and you have already spent your time with her despite what happened, slowly let her go so you can move on. It is not good to force her to remember when your past can no longer be brought back.
NOY KULAS
